A man I wasn't sure I knew smiled at me at Paddles the other night. He seemed appealing enough. I was on my way to go play with someone, so I didn't have time to really talk. I thought to myself, "I THINK I met him, but I'm not sure -- what's his name? I'll ask him in a little while."
Later, as I was coming back to the bar area after playing, the same guy was in the midst of a bunch of people that I was trying to get through. He came over to me and said, "Hi, Cassandra." His arm went around me in a sort of half hug, but then his arm slid down and suddenly I felt him running his hand over my butt.
I was in a good mood because of the scene I'd just done, so I was reasonably nice. I said, "What's your name again? We HAVE met, right?" He tells me, R____, and says we had met before. I say, "Okay, R____. Good talking with you -- now, BE NICE."
I simply continued past him toward the bar. I don't think he understood my message. He had just blown any chances he might have had to play with me that night. Stroking a woman's butt (or any other part of her body) is not the proper way to say hello, even if you know her well -- ESPECIALLY if you barely know her.
She’s A Good Girl, Actually
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To be sure, R is from the camp of the Philisitines and his action boorish and inappropriate. That said, I can understand it happening given the environment.
The spanking culture is difficult navigate, between erotic play spankings, domestic discipline scenes and "Please whip me Mistress (but not too hard) dungeon games.
And the nexus between spanking and eroticism doesn't help. Maybe its me, but from what I read and hear it seems not infrequent that one player thinks they're going out to the woodshed for some good old fashioned welts and tears whipping and the opposing player a trip to the fantasy faux fur Fredrick's of Hollywood dungeon for some slap and tickle.
One generally results in cialis moments and the other certainly does not. Well certainly does not exactly, sort of; and that's the rub.
Some explorers never get past the sensual idea of spanking as an erotic act, and that's lots of fun. The more adventurous though seem to strike out for real corporal punishment and discipline scenes. Where the climax comes not from the loins but from the physcial/emotional/spiritual.
I wonder if a hanky signal system would work: chartreuse for those looking for erotic spankings, and black & blue to signal "You will respect me and I might whip your ass unmercilessly because you deserve it.
Be well,
Mark
Oh, no. It's all about sex and sexual turn-ons. (Not necessarily right then, however).
But no matter how you eroticize your kink, it doesn't mean you touch people who didn't ask you to touch them. I CAN'T understand that, no matter what environment you are in.
Touching without invitation and permission is a definite no no. The French flair of kissing to each side of the face, which really is simply the cheeks touching while you kiss air, is as affectionate as anyone should go.
Mike
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