Just wanted to announce

The trailer for the film I made with Southeastern Woodshed is now available.

I'd love for people to join the group and check it out. It was my first movie! Ms. Holly, who runs the group, is a very good disciplinarian, and on top of that, she's HOT!

Yes, I know it's my bottom side, but I think most of you know I switch. I'm hoping to do a co-topping scene with her in the future.

Can't wait to play with her again...

So many bad boys ...

Why do they insist on behaving badly? What will it take to get them to behave? It never seems to be enough. Do I have to use a frat paddle, do I have to cut a switch from a nearby tree and whip them with it until they are sobbing and begging for mercy? They never learn.

I'm due to meet one of them this afternoon. Says he "cursed out a teacher." So, as his "principal," I'm preparing to thrash him AND wash his mouth out with soap.

I don't think he will like it one bit and he may be crying and begging for me to stop. I won't, until I'm satisfied that he's truly sorry.

And yet in spite of what I give him today, I'm sure he'll be right back in my "office" within the month for another offense. Sigh.

They never learn...

Would like to get to know you...

Really. I would like to know what you're all about, what makes you tick, what kind of play you like, whether we're compatible, how hard I can spank you.

But there are ways of doing this. When I am on Instant Messenger chatting with other people and someone I don't know pops up and IMs me, I cannot just drop everything to IM with a stranger -- usually someone with no profile or a bare-bones one. I know nothing about him at all, and he wants me to chat with you.

So when I ask you, very politely, to send me an email telling me what you're all about and letting me schedule a time when we can IM, please do so. I'm not rejecting you. I'm saying I DO want to talk with you -- at a time when I'm not being rude to someone else or neglecting other things I need to handle. I work long hours and my at-home internet time is limited.

I've explained this recently to two or three male (why is it always male?) subs, who are popping up EVERY time I sign in. And it's the same type of message over and over: "You there?" "Can you chat now?" etc. etc. I've had to write four times to one guy, asking him to email me and tell me what he's looking for. I get no email, and the next time I sign in he pops up and says, "You there?"

What's sad is I also keep getting these messages when I'm NOT signed in. I understand the desire for instant gratification. But this is a real turnoff. Especially if you claim to be a sub. Follow directions!

Punishing J and T

My husband and I had a quiet dinner with some scene friends before we all descended upon Paddles' OTK night last night. After my usual "adjustment" period -- it tends to take me a little while to get into the proper head space -- I found my friend J. and led him upstairs for the thrashing he was craving. He's fun to play with because he knows what he wants, makes no apologies for it, and can take it hard. He's not a brat, although he pretends to be bad in order to have a reason for the spanking.

I gave him a pretty hard punishment, ending with a caning in which three different canes were used, which he seemed to "like" a lot. I keep thinking I need to push him harder next time, that we may be only just touching the edges of where we need to go. I never want to go TOO far. But too little can be a frustrating tease. So, more discussion is in order with J., and soon.

Also played with T., another favorite Paddles' partner of mine. He's very masochistic and can take a lot, so I KNOW I can push him. Also, it was his birthday the next day, so I gave him the present of a long, hard scene. Spanking, strapping, flogging, face slapping, back and chest and nipple punishment... I LOVED making him take everything. I loved seeing the pain in his eyes, his willingness to take more, and I gave him more.

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I need a maid!

I feel super, super lazy. Will someone please come clean my house? I'll give you a reward (ie, a nice spanking. What? Is there a better reward?)

Why is that Mr. Peanut in the last post is striking such a similar pose to mine? I did not notice this until after I posted that blog. Very strange. Mr. Peanut scared me as a toddler. Get your minds out of the gutter. I was on the Atlantic City boardwalk with my family and he was walking outside the Planters Store. Yes, trying to get people to taste his salty nuts, when it gets right down to it. What's with the cane? He's NOT limping! He seems like a very healthy nut, if you ask me. I find this mighty suspicious. And the monocle, spats and white gloves? How pretentious can you be? I just hope I don't run into him at Paddles some night. He seems like he's got a touch of A.D.D. (Almighty Dom Disorder).
The costume? Not as bad as Sad Panda, but disturbing, nonetheless.

Speaking of A.D.D., I was supposed to be out getting a walk in, and, naturally, got distracted by something I thought was more important. There is NOTHING either important or socially redeeming in this blog. It's barely thought-provoking. I hope I can find a cute whipping boy or girl soon to punish for this slacking off. (Can one get a whipping boy to atone for one's OWN sins?). Interesting. Here's some advice about whipping a boy from Yahoo Answers. Now, I'm not saying I agree with this advice. Just putting it out there for your amusement.

Peanut gallery

When I am topping someone, I have a responsibility for my bottom. I should be focusing on him or her, not an audience, not how I (or we) look to onlookers, nor anything else outside of our sphere. At a club or party I know there will be noise, people talking nearby, sometimes quite loudly, and people occasionally talking about the scene in which we're engaged. There's nothing I can do about that; I have to accept it. Accept it -- but not engage in it.

Please don't be insulted if I don't acknowledge you if you try to get my attention during a scene. It does not mean I don't like you and that I don't want to talk to you later. This did happen on Saturday night, when someone wanted to say goodbye to me while I was playing. We've already talked about it, he apologized, and I'm cool.

But I still wanted to mention it here, in case others might need to know about this piece of etiquette. To me, it shows a lack of respect for the person I'm playing with to begin to talk to someone during our scene.

I know how annoying and insulting that can be when I'm bottoming. As a sub I am often "treated" to helpful suggestions from onlookers, comments from "Spank her harder!" to the audacity of "Here, try THIS on her!" Sometimes I try to imagine what implement is being offered to my top -- who usually has plenty of his own toys (and doesn't need another top implying he isn't doing a good job).

I know people are just trying to have fun, and I usually don't get upset, but I will often pop my head up at times like these to exclaim, "Okay, that's enough from the Peanut Gallery!" I'm joking about it to be "nice," but I really mean it ... that's enough! There ARE some light-hearted scenes where interjections from the crowd would not be a big deal. But, if I didn't know whether or not a scene was "fun" or "serious," I'd err on the side of caution.

I had one top who, in the middle of spanking me, engaged in a conversation with someone else who'd wandered over. I tried my usual tactic: "Hello? Peanut Gallery?" and was ignored. They continued to talk. Gee, I wonder whatever happened to that top? It's been a LONG time since I've wanted to play with him...

As a top I bear this in mind. We are all fragile to some degree, but especially those who are making themselves vulnerable, physically and emotionally, to another.

Craving domestic discipline?

If any subs or switches have been longing for a domestic scene, here's your opportunity to be taken in hand (and tossed over my knee) while contributing to a good cause: During the rest of April and up until May 1, I'm offering sessions at half my normal one-hour+ tribute and contributing this to the Revlon Run/Walk for Women on May 2 in NYC. My friend Lisa, a fellow spanko and blogger, talked me into joining her in this fund-raiser for women's cancers. I like the walking part, but it's always tough to raise money for these events so I thought I'd combine it with a little domestic discipline.

In addition to the above special, at Paddles NYC only I can offer 15-minute spankings in exchange for $25 donations, or 15-minute floggings or canings for $50 contributions.

Just so I'm clear, I'm donating all of these tributes (from those who request this special) to the Revlon Walk cancer research, and I'm lowering my rates to generate quick interest. Anyone who CAN contribute more would certainly be well-appreciated.

The normal rules apply; I don't do sexual play of any kind. This is mainly discipline or punishment play. P.S. If you want to switch, the tribute is slightly higher.